Beyond Mother’s Day: Building Daily Respect and Connection in ADHD Relationships

Shane Thrapp and Braden Young use Mother’s Day as a starting point to talk about how ADHD and AuDHD can make dates, gestures, and follow-through difficult, and why appreciation needs to be a daily practice rather than a once-a-year performance. Shane shares involving his kids, Liam and Harley, in choosing gifts to teach them to notice and value their mom, while both hosts emphasize that small, consistent acts of attention matter more than grand gestures. They explain how dopamine-driven novelty, time blindness, object permanence issues, executive function challenges, and rejection sensitive dysphoria can lead to complacency, missed needs, and defensiveness despite good intentions. They recommend systems like scheduled partner check-ins, reminders, trying new things together, learning love languages, externalizing appreciation, and staying present because kids are watching and learning what love looks like in practice.

00:00 Welcome to DadDHD
00:25 Mother's Day Jump Off
01:33 Teaching Thoughtfulness
02:28 Respect as Practice
03:52 ADHD Brain Science
05:29 Autopilot and Neglect
06:39 Follow Through Problems
07:33 RSD and Defensiveness
08:38 Systems That Work
09:00 Check Ins on Calendar
10:11 Redirect Novelty Together
11:03 Reminders and Externalize
12:41 Small Daily Connection
13:38 Kids Are Watching
14:19 Start Being Intentional
15:20 Wrap Up and Subscribe

You can find Shane Thrapp at https://www.creatingorderfromchaos.com 

You can find Braden Young at https://empoweradhdsolutions.com