The DadDHD Podcast

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they talk about the quiet distance that builds between neurodivergent dads and their kids when we keep our lives and theirs in separate lanes. Our hobbies over here, their stuff over there. Our downtime on one side of the house, them on the other. This episode is about closing that gap by including our kids in what we already love, letting our ADHD brains do what they do best, and showing up for the small moments that actually build the relationship.
Learn about why sometimes embracing the chaos of our ADHD brains is exactly how we connect with our kids in ways nobody else can, how our tendency to bounce from interest to interest is actually a gift when it comes to helping our kids explore the world and find what they love, why rough-housing, bedtime, and homework are where the real connection gets built, how to find shared interests without forcing them, the language you need for birthday parties and social events so you stop standing around like a statue, and why being present with your kids is also one of the biggest gifts you can give your partner.
Don't miss the part where we get into what it actually looks like to let your ADHD inner kid out and play, and why the neurodivergent dads who lean into the chaos end up building connections their neurotypical counterparts can't touch. 
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com. 
You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com.

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as we tackle the conversation most neurodivergent dads avoid: therapy. Not coaching. Not podcasts. Not self-help books. Actual therapy. We dig into why so many dads resist getting professional help, what types of therapy actually work for ADHD, autistic, and AuDHD brains, and why relationship therapy isn't optional when you're in a neurodiverse marriage.
Learn about why therapy and coaching serve different functions and you probably need both, what CBT, EMDR, and DBT actually do for neurodivergent brains, how to find a therapist who actually understands ADHD and autism in adults instead of wasting your time and money, why the parent-child dynamic quietly takes over relationships when neurodivergence goes untreated, and how to start the conversation about couples therapy without your partner hearing "we're failing."
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com 
You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as we tackle neurodivergent burnout and what it really means for fathers. Not the "I need a day off" kind. The kind where your brain and body hit a wall because you've been running at 200% just to meet baseline expectations. We break down the difference between burnout and depression, why they need completely different treatment, and what happens when your doctor can't tell them apart.
Learn about why neurodivergent dads are especially vulnerable to burnout, how to start having real conversations with your partner about capacity, why asking for help is a strategy and not a surrender, and what actual recovery looks like beyond just pushing through until the next crash.
Don't miss our personal burnout stories, why the wrong diagnosis can take you to a dangerous place, and why grieving the version of yourself that could power through everything is actually part of healing.
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com 

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they talk about managing work life with ADHD, autism, AuDHD, and fatherhood. From the provider pressure their dads drilled into them to the careers they actually landed in, Shane and Braden get real about what happens when the work you do fights your brain and why that cost follows you home to your kids.
Learn about why "just clock out" doesn't work for neurodivergent brains, what the wrong job actually costs someone with ADHD, Autism, or AuDHD and why building a real transition between work mode and dad mode changes how you show up for your family.
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as he flies solo for this one and shares his legacy origin story. He talks about the biological father who said "I can't" and walked away, the complicated and often abusive relationship with his stepdad, and the mom who stepped in and showed him what choosing someone actually looks like. Braden opens up about stepping into his stepdaughter's life undiagnosed, the anger he carried, and the moments he wishes he could take back.
Learn about how undiagnosed ADHD shows up as anger in fatherhood, why breaking cycles isn't clean and sometimes you interrupt them imperfectly, and why the voices your kids hear in their heads long after you leave the room start with the words you choose now.
Don't miss Braden's story about discovering at the passport office that he'd never been legally adopted, the choice he made to change his name for his son, and the comic books in the closet that could have changed everything.
You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as we dig into masking—the pressure to perform a version of yourself that isn't really you to hide your ADHD or Autism. We talk about where masking starts (the "be a man" messages, the bootstrap CEO myth), how it shows up in our relationships and kills intimacy, and why we accidentally teach our kids to mask when we do it ourselves.
Learn about the difference between strategic masking and masking out of fear, how to unmask safely with your partner without dropping it all at once, and why naming what's happening ("Dad's brain is having a loud day") teaches your kids more about emotional regulation than "I'm fine" ever will.
Don't miss our conversation on how masking hits boys and girls differently, why emotions like sadness and overwhelm aren't "soft"—they're human, and how to break the cycle so your kids don't spend decades hiding who they are.
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com
You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com
00:18 Welcome to The DadDHD Podcast + Today’s Topic: Masking as Neurodivergent Dads
02:00 Where the Mask Starts: “Be a Man,” Don’t Ask for Help, and Internalized Pressure
05:46 Provider Expectations, Burnout, and the Hidden Cost of Performing ‘Normal’
07:04 Masking at Home: Why It Damages Intimacy and Relationships
09:01 Dating & Persona-Building: When People Fall for the Mask, Not You
10:24 Sensory Overload, Sex, and Having the Hard Conversations (Not Mid-Moment)
14:12 Unmasking Safely: Let the Real You Out Gradually with Clear Communication
16:42 How Parents Teach Kids to Mask (and Why It Hits Boys & Girls Differently)
22:31 Breaking the Cycle: Modeling Emotional Regulation and Naming What’s Happening
26:30 Strategic Masking vs. 24/7 Masking: Making It a Choice, Not a Default
30:37 Authenticity with Kindness

Join Shane Thrapp and Braden Young as they interview Brendan Mahan from ADHD Essentials. Brendan, the author of the upcoming book 'Overcoming The Wall of Awful,' shares his experiences of raising 17-year-old twins, the complexities of his childhood, and how they inform his parenting. The conversation covers fatherhood, ADHD strategies, the influence of upbringing, and key insights into maintaining a balanced family life while managing neurodivergence. Don’t miss Brendan's advice on fostering trust, effective communication, and navigating the challenges of OCD. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com
You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com
 
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
01:13 Brendan's Childhood and Parental Influence
05:50 Parenting Philosophies and Challenges
13:06 Building Trust and Communication with Kids
17:45 Professional Experience and Its Impact on Parenting
21:29 Specialized vs. Generalized Treatment for OCD
22:02 Impact of Parenting Twins on Expectations
24:56 Sibling Dynamics and Social Challenges
29:55 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family
32:59 Overcoming Parenting Challenges and Burnout
36:54 Advice for Parents of Neurodivergent Children
41:25 Conclusion and Resources
 

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they break down why the traditional "walk it off" mentality fails neurodivergent kids—and what actual resilience looks like. Through a real story about Braden handling his autistic son's scraped knee at school, they explain the difference between teaching resilience and teaching kids to mask their needs. This episode challenges fathers to show up emotionally, not just provide, and offers concrete strategies for co-regulation that work with neurodivergent brains instead of against them.
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com
You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com
00:25 A Personal Story: Handling a School Incident
02:53 The Impact of Traditional Toughness on Neurodivergent Kids
05:35 Understanding Sensory Overload
07:24 The Importance of Co-Regulation
10:00 Breaking the Cycle: Emotional Support from Dads
16:10 Reality Check: Imperfection is Okay
20:35 Challenge for Dads: Breaking the Trauma Cycle

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos Consulting and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they discuss the phenomenon of afterschool restraint collapse. Learn about the challenges faced by both neurotypical and neurodivergent children, the impact on parents, and why co-regulation is essential. Discover practical strategies for managing stress and fostering a supportive family environment. Tune in for expert insights into building routines that accommodate the needs of every family member.
You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com
00:00 Introduction: The Chaos After Work
01:24 Understanding Afterschool Restraint Collapse
03:40 The Reality for Parents
06:12 What Doesn't Work: Managing Afterschool Restraint Collapse
07:27 Effective Co-Regulation Strategies
10:43 Practical Strategies for Daily Life
15:36 Conclusion: Breaking the Cycle

Join Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as he discusses a recent study from Washington University in St. Louis that reveals surprising findings about the effects of stimulant ADHD medications. The study examines how stimulant ADHD medications affect brain activity differently than previously believed. Key findings include the role of stimulants in enhancing arousal, wakefulness, and reward centers, rather than directly improving attention. The discussion also explores the implications for sleep hygiene and its connection to ADHD symptoms, and Braden talks about the necessity of sufficient sleep for children with ADHD.
Check out the study from Washington University in St. Louis here: https://medicine.washu.edu/news/stimulant-adhd-medications-work-differently-than-thought/ 
For more information about Braden Young check out his website at: www.empoweradhdsolutions.com  For more information about Shane Thrapp check out his website at: www.creatingorderfromchaos.com